Is it considered 'gayish' for two guys to 'high five' each other in public anymore??
Posted 01-28-2011 at 11:51 AM by Time and Space
Is it considered 'gay' for two guys to 'high five' each other in public anymore??
I guess the fact that you don't see guys publically high fiving each other anymore says it all...
I remember high fives, were big in the 80's...but as with the 70's, it seems everything straight hetrosexual males did, from hairstyles to fashion to social habits, in the 80's, is considered 'gay' or 'gayish' by todays standards...
It seems 'hetro guys' always set the trends, then those trends become 'feminized' and then finally 'gayorized'...(that's not even a word, but I needed something that rymned)...
I myself use to love to high five...but to do so now with another hetrosexual male, would probablly be equivalent to me kissing them on the lips in public....
Sad, but it seems guys have really been boxed in to what they can and cannot do in public without being consided 'gay' or 'gayish' or 'sissy'...
Seems the only time guys can get away with high fiving other guys, is when 'drunk'...
....either at a party or sports bar...
But it's like if your not 'drunk'...you have no excuse for giving Tom a high five in the public square next to the fountain...
Here's an experiment you can do at home in your community...try to give another guy you know a high five, the next time the occasion arises...and see if they reciprocate...or look at you like..
'Say man, are you crazy?!'....
I guess the fact that you don't see guys publically high fiving each other anymore says it all...
I remember high fives, were big in the 80's...but as with the 70's, it seems everything straight hetrosexual males did, from hairstyles to fashion to social habits, in the 80's, is considered 'gay' or 'gayish' by todays standards...
It seems 'hetro guys' always set the trends, then those trends become 'feminized' and then finally 'gayorized'...(that's not even a word, but I needed something that rymned)...
I myself use to love to high five...but to do so now with another hetrosexual male, would probablly be equivalent to me kissing them on the lips in public....
Sad, but it seems guys have really been boxed in to what they can and cannot do in public without being consided 'gay' or 'gayish' or 'sissy'...
Seems the only time guys can get away with high fiving other guys, is when 'drunk'...
....either at a party or sports bar...But it's like if your not 'drunk'...you have no excuse for giving Tom a high five in the public square next to the fountain...
Here's an experiment you can do at home in your community...try to give another guy you know a high five, the next time the occasion arises...and see if they reciprocate...or look at you like..
'Say man, are you crazy?!'....
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Yes I know...there are much more pressing things going on in todays news and world than whether or not two guys high fiving each other is considered 'gayish' or not...
I know women will high five you to death...they love to high five...but guys...nah...
Guys will high five another woman, but not each other...
And for the record...I thought Obamas State of the Union speech was superb...and he touched on many important areas...
And I thought the GOP's response...was just negitave...
All they ever say anymore is 'We need to cut spending' and 'Obama...baaaad'...
That's all they ever say...
So for now, I'd rather focus on something more positive or totally unrelated to the ugliness of politics and human nature...
At least Obama didn't 'crack' on no one during his speech, and tried to move the country ahead as a 'unit',
verses this left right divisive crap.
He touched on many different themes and subjects and did so in a non partison friendly positive tone.
Can't say the same for the GOP, whos response sounded more like your typical AM angry talk radio show....
Same old hate, same old negitivaty, never nothing nice or positive to say about anyone outside of
their social bubble.
They think they can inspire people by constantly bashing the President and blaming.
The GOPs message or style just doesn't appeal to me anymore...to me, they have really lowered
the bar in respect to how you treat standing Presidents and our institutions.
And it will come back to haunt them big time, when the next Republican President gets elected...
They will not be able to take any moral high ground in regards to how the next Republican President is recieved...none...
Absolutly none...
They have trashed our President, and the institution he holds, and will now turn around and expect dignity to be restored to that seat simply because 'Their man or woman' is in office....
Nope, instead their constant crying and fear mongering has forever lowered the bar of how those in office, and elected seats, are recieved...
It makes more and more sense to me why God could have allowed Obama to win that election...
In order for the rest of us to really see and examine the extent of 'ugliness' in certain others...
And it has shown me that being on the 'political right' has absolutly nothing at all to do with 'rightiousness'...
But has everything to do with appealing to a darker base instinct within many, and justifying that 'instinct' through
carefully choosen Ivy league words...
I'm done for now...Posted 01-28-2011 at 11:58 AM by Time and Space
Updated 01-29-2011 at 09:20 AM by Time and Space -
Same sex club...
speaking of 'gayish'...I visited a 'same sex club' the other night...
And actually had fun...and met a lot of wonderful people...both males and a few females...
I rarely ever go to 'clubs' or 'bars'...just not my thing...but the other night I just felt like going somewhere where I could just 'relax' and be myself...
And be around other induvisuals who were willing to do the same...no false pretenses or anything...
I suppose i could of went to a 'straight' club or bar..but do to the competitive nature of such places, and all the head games, jeliousy, childish manuvering by both the males and females, I doubt I would of got to dialogue with anyone.
When I went to this same sex establishment...I had no interest in 'romance'...not at all...rather I just wanted to be around 'real' people who had no hang ups about their sexuality or preference...
There's something refreshing about seeing that kind of honesty out in the open...and in turn helped me to relax...as others approached and introduced themselves...
Really, nothing went on there, that wouldn't go on if it were a all female hair salon...lot's of hugs, and a bit of 'naughty' flirting...
But it's all in fun...kinda like 'Look what I can get away with in here, that I could never do outside' type of stuff..
A lot of gay men are really isolated, or live really isolated lives, and the only place where they can openly flirt or show affection is in such an establishment...
Either way, I had fun with it...and found everyone, or most, very friendly...but I guess when your slamming drinks down it's hard not to be friendly...
I'm actually more afraid of going to a 'straight' club or bar than a gay one...
Straight clubs are way more 'serious'...it's like everyone had a sense of humor at this same sex club...totally aware of the 'stigma' that comes attached with that orientation...
So it was like 'instead of cry about it, lets laugh and have fun'...
The demographic of people there was wide and broad...young to middle aged to even a few in their 50's and 60's....
and the racial make-up was about the same as general society...
But the black gay guys in there acted more 'mature' and mentally developed, compared to their baggy pants wearing, juvenille childish acting straight counter parts...
They just seemed more sophisticated and elegant...like men of old...when people had class...
And maybe because being gay forces you to grow up quicker...
But in some of these hoods, seems some of the black guys never grow up...their mental development seems forever crippled by enviornment.
It was nice to see younger black guys act sophisticated and talk proper for a change...
It would be nice if they could do that without being gay though...
While at this place I also interacted with and or was approached by older white gentlemen...who were very nice in behavior and approach...
And full of compliments, which of course i liked...
continued on next post...Posted 02-11-2011 at 02:52 PM by Time and Space
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continued from above...
Women really take for granted guys complimenting them...
If I were a woman I'd never take it for granted if anyone complimented me, regardless of what gender they were...
I mean most are only in their 'sexy zone' for a short while...and once you exit that 'sexy zone'...you may never get another compliment ever again...
As a male, being complimented on your looks are swagger, by another male, at first you really don't know how to take it...you even feel their being sarcastic...
Gay guys make you feel sexy, desired, and wanted (regardless of whether its right or wrong...that's not my point)...
Where as most women make the average guy feel like he's 'creepy' or 'ugly' or 'not desirable'....and soon that can give a guy a complex...
And then you walk into a gay club, and everyone thinks your a 'darling'....
And your like 'Why can't women be more forthcoming with compliments like gay guys are?'
I think women are more wrapped into how they look, and not to concerned with how others look around them...
I guess that's seen as 'competition'....
Anyhow...enough for now...I do have other observations and notes I'd like to share about my experience at a later time...Posted 02-11-2011 at 03:02 PM by Time and Space
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Older Russian guy, dude, man actually high fived me...
Not sure what to make of it...don't really know the Russian culture so well...
But he's an older, heavy built tough old country Russian...reminds me of one of the characters that could appear on the Sapranos...
He's a touchy feely type of guy...just not sure how to interpit that...we're actually working together...and I don't know if Russian men are just like that, or what...
I just don't know...
But he held his hand up for me to high five...and I did...but it was sloppy...not firm and athletic...most high fives are very 'athletic'...and last a quick second...this one was sloppy...and felt wet...
Again...not sure what to make of it...I'll keep you posted...Posted 05-06-2011 at 09:36 PM by Time and Space
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The guy on the right kind of resembles the old Mayor of DC, Marion Barry...the one who was fired for smoking crack...looks like he's after a different type of (won't say it) here...d'oh...
I actually took this outside a homeless shelter...a nice one at that, and these two just kind of looked like they were flirting or something...
Pretty guys, males, are a valuable asset to homeless men, who haven't a chance in this world of ever capturing a female again...
No lady want's to date a homeless man on skid row...so these homeless males instead turn to 'soft' cute males for phycological comfort...Posted 07-10-2011 at 11:14 AM by Time and Space
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Oddly enough, a supervisor I use to work for, low fived me the other week...
He was walking by, stuck his hand out low, and I smacked it with my own hand or palm...
It was very odd...
But when your boss wants to high or low five, you'r best to reciprocate...Posted 07-19-2011 at 02:55 PM by Time and Space
