Tensions and The World, Large and Small
Posted 01-12-2011 at 06:45 AM by LookinForMayberry
Yesterday I received a verbal lashing from a coworker that came as a complete surprise, and (I felt) completely unfounded. He was so vehement in his accusations that my inner voice kept wondering "What is causing this spin-out?" He attributed it to me saying things I never said, and he was very hurtful.
I kept reminding myself that this wasn't about me, but his inner turmoils. It bought me a sense of compassion -- oddly enough, and only at one time did I speak out, asking him to stop talking to me that way. I didn't raise my voice, but just asked him, plainly. He went on a bit longer, but more restrained.
I listened, told him I would try to help him with what was frustrating him, and in the end we walked away from the situation together.
Still, even after wishing each other a good evening when he left the office, I felt my own inner tension, hurt, and desire to speak out. It lasted through the night, and this morning I don't look forward to another day in the office.
So, obviously I'm struggling with that second intention, about accepting situations, yet.
At least I can be thankful that I was fairly well able to keep my compassion.
On the way home I learned about strife in North Africa, and Pakistan. We are still absorbing the young man's shooting into the Town Hall in Tucson, and the hateful repercussions in that city, including a church claiming the deaths were attributable to our acceptance of gays.
I reflected on my day at the office. Is the world going crazy?
I pray for peace, within and outside my small sphere. May we calm these troubled waters with our compassionate hearts, and love those that are in the midst of the struggles.
Please, God, let me accept this and help heal it. Amen.
I kept reminding myself that this wasn't about me, but his inner turmoils. It bought me a sense of compassion -- oddly enough, and only at one time did I speak out, asking him to stop talking to me that way. I didn't raise my voice, but just asked him, plainly. He went on a bit longer, but more restrained.
I listened, told him I would try to help him with what was frustrating him, and in the end we walked away from the situation together.
Still, even after wishing each other a good evening when he left the office, I felt my own inner tension, hurt, and desire to speak out. It lasted through the night, and this morning I don't look forward to another day in the office.
So, obviously I'm struggling with that second intention, about accepting situations, yet.
At least I can be thankful that I was fairly well able to keep my compassion.
On the way home I learned about strife in North Africa, and Pakistan. We are still absorbing the young man's shooting into the Town Hall in Tucson, and the hateful repercussions in that city, including a church claiming the deaths were attributable to our acceptance of gays.
I reflected on my day at the office. Is the world going crazy?
I pray for peace, within and outside my small sphere. May we calm these troubled waters with our compassionate hearts, and love those that are in the midst of the struggles.
Please, God, let me accept this and help heal it. Amen.
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First off, if you were getting 'chewed out' by a fellow worker, you should of told him to STOP, and got another worker to listen in, and be a witness to this.
When a someone decides to go 'postal' on some one, a boss should be notified, in case any escalation of hostilities becomes more than just verbal.
If it wasnt your fault, I would never stand for the verbal flogging that you took, because it wasnt warranted by you. I would have immediately asked the person to come with you to the Boss and hash out what the problem is.
Now, because no one else was involved in this situation, no one knows what is between you two, and if it starts affecting your work, 'you' will be the one who is slacking off, and no one will know why you started acting 'funny' or your work is suffering...
So, get someone else involved and explain the entire episode to them, so they can run interference for you...
No one, should have to take abuse from anyone!
I wish you well...
JessePosted 01-13-2011 at 05:28 PM by woodworkingmenace
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Thank you, Jesse, for your concern. Fortunately, my boss owns the company and he is well aware of my strengths and weaknesses, as well as the others.
I like knowing that you are there, and supportive. Thanks, again. 8)Posted 01-14-2011 at 05:22 AM by LookinForMayberry
