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OK, you want people to admire you or someone else because of happiness. That kind of sounds like you want people to swoon over the happiness of someone, like the need for feedback of how lucky one is in their happiness.
So, I'm thinking the issue isn't that they are not happy for someone else, but that the person that is happy needs a feed saying they are lucky, and if that is so, it has me wondering more about the person that needs the feedback and admiration for their happiness than the one that isn't so much envious, but not finding happiness a reason to admire someone.
Not sure why someone needs others to focus on their happiness. I think that is where someone is coming up short.
Someone is happy, so then I would be expected to focus on their happiness and admire them for it? Someone is happy, fine, and if it doesn't bring focus and admiration, that doesn't mean they are resentful or envious. Another possibility is that say someone gets engaged to someone you think is totally horrible and will make the person miserable, ah, maybe that is where the hesitation would exist.
I would say the person should not worry about others celebrating their happiness, and wonder why they need the focus and admiration.
I don't agree with anything you have said.
It seems to me, that people who cannot stand to see someone else's happiness are the type that compare themselves to others. Over-comparing causes envy. Envy is the sensation that they want something that someone else has and they can’t be happy for them when they have it.
These people often take the good things in their OWN lives for granted.
It seems to me, that people who cannot stand to see someone else's happiness are the type that compare themselves to others. Over-comparing causes envy. Envy is the sensation that they want something that someone else has and they can’t be happy for them when they have it.
These people often take the good things in their OWN lives for granted.
Well, your title used the word resentful. Now you're using the word envy. Those are 2 words with different meanings. I'm wondering...would the word 'unhappy' be better to use? "Why do people feel unhappy when they see others happy?"
Do you really need to be admired, just because you are happy??
Okay, admire may be the wrong word to use. I just can't think of anything else, right now.
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Well, your title used the word resentful. Now you're using the word envy. Those are 2 words with different meanings. I'm wondering...would the word 'unhappy' be better to use? "Why do people feel unhappy when they see others happy?"
The term, "rains on your parade" comes to mind. I know a woman who is very unhappy and always seems to find a way to bring down what should be a joyous occasion. I do think she resents what she perceives as life being unfair to her and is unable to feel any joy or happiness for others.
The term, "rains on your parade" comes to mind. I know a woman who is very unhappy and always seems to find a way to bring down what should be a joyous occasion. I do think she resents what she perceives as life being unfair to her and is unable to feel any joy or happiness for others.
You know...sometimes people get in a rut of negative feeling. They've been in the habit of it so long, they practically need divine intervention to get out of that rut.
Why do people feel resentful when they see others happy?
It's a psychological mood thing. Some people not comfortable with their lives have plain 'ol negative emotions.
The term, "rains on your parade" comes to mind. I know a woman who is very unhappy and always seems to find a way to bring down what should be a joyous occasion. I do think she resents what she perceives as life being unfair to her and is unable to feel any joy or happiness for others.
Thank you for your post ....that's a perfect example of what I'm talking about.
Okay, admire may be the wrong word to use. I just can't think of anything else, right now.
You are right! Unhappy or perhaps uncomfortable.
Uncomfortable over others’ happiness? That’s a bit odd, as is admiring them.
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But then...I like people, and interacting with other people, and I don't mind other people interacting with me. I have no problem sharing in celebration of someone's wins, big or small. Though there is a limit as to how much I might prefer to commiserate with someone over their sorrows and setbacks, depending on the nature of our relationship.
Well said; I couldn’t agree more.
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The term, "rains on your parade" comes to mind. I know a woman who is very unhappy and always seems to find a way to bring down what should be a joyous occasion. I do think she resents what she perceives as life being unfair to her and is unable to feel any joy or happiness for others.
Although I don’t know folks who are like this, the takeaway is to surround yourself with positive people (and be happy/positive yourself). Persons who are generally happy tend to socialize with others who have the same mindset; they share in life’s ups and downs together.
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Unhappy or perhaps uncomfortable.
