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Hi all. I wanted to see if there are single moms here having one or more kids? I am currently 39 and after tow failed marriages, I decided to not waste time and at 40 use a sperm bank to have a child. Has anyone used a sperm bank and had a child through UI procedure? How many tries did it take you to succeed?
At this point in life, I feel like my life would be more enjoyable if I spend it mostly on my child than look for relationships. I feel like if I become a mom, I will no longer concentrate on finding someone but rather enjoying my time with whomever I meet without getting too serious in case that person isn't looking for anything serious either. I feel like relationships and marriages turn into a headache in the long-run and I also do not want to deal with a baby drama neither split my child 50/50 as I am want to have one for myself. For example, I wouldn't want my child to stay or go live for a while with her/his dad somewhere else with some other woman in case if our marriage did not work. I also don't want to get permission from a father to be able to move with my child whether it's to Europe or some other city/state. I also feel like I will have a great time with my kid without a 3rd party involved. My parents are aging now and they really want a grandchild as I am the only child, so I know that I will have them as help on the side, and if I prolonged this plan, without my parents in the picture it will be difficult for me. Anyone in a similar situation who went ahead with having a baby?
Hi all. I wanted to see if there are single moms here having one or more kids? I am currently 39 and after tow failed marriages, I decided to not waste time and at 40 use a sperm bank to have a child. Has anyone used a sperm bank and had a child through UI procedure? How many tries did it take you to succeed?
At this point in life, I feel like my life would be more enjoyable if I spend it mostly on my child than look for relationships. I feel like if I become a mom, I will no longer concentrate on finding someone but rather enjoying my time with whomever I meet without getting too serious in case that person isn't looking for anything serious either. I feel like relationships and marriages turn into a headache in the long-run and I also do not want to deal with a baby drama neither split my child 50/50 as I am want to have one for myself. For example, I wouldn't want my child to stay or go live for a while with her/his dad somewhere else with some other woman in case if our marriage did not work. I also don't want to get permission from a father to be able to move with my child whether it's to Europe or some other city/state. I also feel like I will have a great time with my kid without a 3rd party involved. My parents are aging now and they really want a grandchild as I am the only child, so I know that I will have them as help on the side, and if I prolonged this plan, without my parents in the picture it will be difficult for me. Anyone in a similar situation who went ahead with having a baby?
I will tell you that parenting is hard. My husband was away for a month when my son was two months old. He was walking up every three hours to poop and feed. I seriously thought I was going to lose my mind from the lack of sleep. You'll need to have another person living with you for the first six months.
The highlighted text is a poor reason to have a child. Children are ruined by too much and/or too little attention. Additionally, your attention will be emotionally inappropriate.
You seem to be thinking of a child as a playmate / companion/ accessory. Before doing this, please thoughtfully read some of the many studies about the negative effects of single parenting on children. Of course no one ever thinks that their own child will become one of the statistics, but obviously a large number of them are wrong.
You seem to be thinking of a child as a playmate / companion/ accessory. Before doing this, please thoughtfully read some of the many studies about the negative effects of single parenting on children. Of course no one ever thinks that their own child will become one of the statistics, but obviously a large number of them are wrong.
This. Get a dog like every other unstable middle aged woman. The string of failed relationships had a common thread.
Hi all. I wanted to see if there are single moms here having one or more kids? I am currently 39 and after tow failed marriages, I decided to not waste time and at 40 use a sperm bank to have a child. Has anyone used a sperm bank and had a child through UI procedure? How many tries did it take you to succeed?
At this point in life, I feel like my life would be more enjoyable if I spend it mostly on my child than look for relationships. I feel like if I become a mom, I will no longer concentrate on finding someone but rather enjoying my time with whomever I meet without getting too serious in case that person isn't looking for anything serious either. I feel like relationships and marriages turn into a headache in the long-run and I also do not want to deal with a baby drama neither split my child 50/50 as I am want to have one for myself. For example, I wouldn't want my child to stay or go live for a while with her/his dad somewhere else with some other woman in case if our marriage did not work. I also don't want to get permission from a father to be able to move with my child whether it's to Europe or some other city/state. I also feel like I will have a great time with my kid without a 3rd party involved. My parents are aging now and they really want a grandchild as I am the only child, so I know that I will have them as help on the side, and if I prolonged this plan, without my parents in the picture it will be difficult for me. Anyone in a similar situation who went ahead with having a baby?
Why are you waiting until 40? As a woman myself, I know that once you get in your 30's, you're limited to how many more years you can have kids due to how many eggs you have left. You need to see a fertility doctor ASAP to see if you even have eggs and depending on what they say, you really should have that baby now with a sperm donor.
Relevant question = why did you have two failed marriages?
Kids w/ two parents in the home have every statistical advantage of success. Tough pill to swallow, maybe, but the selfishness of "having a kid" as a project is very much misguided. Get a cat.
Having a child because your parents want grandchildren is the worst reason to have one. As a single mom you will be solely responsible any help from others even your mom and dad is momentary, especially as they age.
Why did you not have children before now? You couldn’t, or you didn’t want them?
I see nothing wrong with you deciding to have a child by yourself. It’s a free country. Some of us are just not mentally or financially prepared until we are older. I would not have felt fulfilled as a woman, without children, but everyone’s different.
As long as you know that your whole life will be controlled by this child for the rest of your life, and you don’t have any romantic notions. There are a LOT of challenges between holding a perfect pink bundle, and having your grandchildren gathered around your rocking chair. There is also a lot of joy in watching a child grow and learn and become an individual.
As roselvr said, if you make the decision, do it sooner, rather than later. Embryos can be frozen for years, but your eggs days are numbered.
Also, you know IVF and embryo storage is very expensive, right?
This. Get a dog like every other unstable middle aged woman. The string of failed relationships had a common thread.
Judgmental no? There's plenty of stable people who have had failed marriages. You know nothing about this women's relationships
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