How is the dating scene for 30-year-old, highly educated professionals in...Sonoma County? (San Francisco: college)

[michaelsa]

I've heard so many people on these boards say that young, unmarried people would be bored to tears living in Sonoma County and should absolutely move to San Francisco instead. I've followed this advice and have lived in SF for almost six years now, and, as always, I'm so depressed by all the asphault and traffic, and I hate nightlife--and am longing, as I always have--to live in the country. And after dating an endless succession of successful business types for six years, all I've found in the city are city guys who love the city, live for flashy nightlife and when I say I want to spend the weekend in Sonoma, ask "Why?" I think I'll have a better chance of meeting someone who appreciates a quieter life if I leave the city and actually go to the place where other country-lovers are likely to be. But from what everyone here says, everyone North of San Francisco is already married (or divorced) and in the process of raising children and I'd stick out like a sore thumb. Is it true?

[bellalunatic]

There are plenty of single well educated people in the North Bay. Sonoma County maybe more so than Marin, due to Sonoma State and the Santa Rosa Junior College. Now I understand that they are not in their 30's most likely, but there is quite the social scene in downtown West Petaluma, for instance...
You should start day-tripping up this way...you'd be surprised I think.

[PeixeGato]

Um, if you've always preferred country life, then why would you think that living in SF would be your thing or that you'd meet women with whom you had much in common? Most of the people who say a young single person would be bored to tears in Sonoma County are generally people who are not into living in a rural setting. Its all about what lifestyle you are interested in. If you are the type who would prefer meeting a woman at a small town farmer's market than a lounge or bar in the City, then you'd prefer Sonoma County. If you aren't that type, then you'd tend to think that Sonoma County was for people who are already "settled down" and aren't "looking for fun".

I always say live in an area that reflects who you are and you'll meet someone that appreciates your personality and interests.

[BayAreaHillbilly]

The wine industry attracts young, educated singles as do a number of "green" businesses well in vogue in the North Bay. Also, those who crave constant outdoor activities are well represented.