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My father died (hit by drunk driver) in California many years ago. Only one who knew him there was a nephew. Nephew reached relatives here in central NY. Dad's casket was put on a train and brought back here for funeral. Cindi Waters: How did you find out about the death? If you know where they went, call the police out there. You will get the information you are looking for.
It’s pretty ease for authorities to use google like anyone else to locate relatives. My phone has my wife’s contact number as the screen saver but even finding her without that is google-simple.
My father died (hit by drunk driver) in California many years ago. Only one who knew him there was a nephew. Nephew reached relatives here in central NY. Dad's casket was put on a train and brought back here for funeral. Cindi Waters: How did you find out about the death? If you know where they went, call the police out there. You will get the information you are looking for.
Hi, NYgal. I was wondering about myself and my husband. I don't think our close relatives have pictures of us and the burial plan we have says in order for funeral home to confirm it's us, they will need a photo. (shrug.) And they said if a friend wants to ID us then they will have to have it authorized legally beforehand. Well this reminds me to get an elder attorney experienced in these matters. And take pictures. And give them to friends and relatives. :-) (Just in case...)
It’s pretty ease for authorities to use google like anyone else to locate relatives. My phone has my wife’s contact number as the screen saver but even finding her without that is google-simple.
Which reminds me I have to speak to cell phone experts about making sure if the phone is lost how can I protect what's there. (Another thread, I suppose.) Thanks for your answer.
It’s pretty ease for authorities to use google like anyone else to locate relatives. My phone has my wife’s contact number as the screen saver but even finding her without that is google-simple.
And the problem is that we have a prepaid plan but no personal will yet, so again you're reminding me that even though we don't have a lot of money, we still need to speak to elder attorney to help us through fine points. I just don't like to leave open ends if I can avoid it. But I've been putting it off and putting it off.
I just finally made an advance health care directive and it's filed with my health insurance provider. So, if I was to die and they found my wallet with my healthcare card and they checked, they would find my directive. In my directive, it has two friends listed as having power of attorney over my healthcare, and includes info on what to do with my remains if I die.
You can just start there. I just googled my state and advance healthcare directive form. A ton will pop up, but look for the form specific to your state through a government website. In CA, anyway, I just filled it out and then you need to either have it notarized (only $15 at my local UPS store) or you can find 2 witnesses.
I got UPS store to scan it and email it to me, then I emailed it to my two friends and I called the medical records department of my healthcare system and asked them if I could just email them a copy for my records and they said yes and gave me the email address. Then, they said they'd print it out and scan it into my medical records, and to call them back in a few days to make sure it was in the file.
Cost of the notary and scanning the document totaled $22.
I just put a hold at my local library for books on creating my own living will and revocable trust and I'm going to do that next. But, if you just start with the advance healthcare directive, you can actually put a lot of info in there as far as your wishes regarding what happens if you end up incapacitated, who makes decisions, what to do with your remains, etc. The CA form even says if the court says I need a conservator, that my two friends who have the POA are also chosen by me to be my conservator, unless they aren't available or decline.
Anyway, you might not need to spend money on an attorney just to accomplish what you mentioned, and a whole lot more with just the directive.
The county coroner will store the body.
The police will investigate.
The body could be id'd thru dental or finger prints.
Special markings....birth marks ..tattoos ..or even medical scars can help the investigation.
That's the matter of fact answer.
How the next of kin is located is another process..
Seems silly to have medical directives if the person is deceased. Organ donations need to be harvested quickly.
I just finally made an advance health care directive and it's filed with my health insurance provider. So, if I was to die and they found my wallet with my healthcare card and they checked, they would find my directive. In my directive, it has two friends listed as having power of attorney over my healthcare, and includes info on what to do with my remains if I die.
You can just start there. I just googled my state and advance healthcare directive form. A ton will pop up, but look for the form specific to your state through a government website. In CA, anyway, I just filled it out and then you need to either have it notarized (only $15 at my local UPS store) or you can find 2 witnesses.
I got UPS store to scan it and email it to me, then I emailed it to my two friends and I called the medical records department of my healthcare system and asked them if I could just email them a copy for my records and they said yes and gave me the email address. Then, they said they'd print it out and scan it into my medical records, and to call them back in a few days to make sure it was in the file.
Cost of the notary and scanning the document totaled $22.
I just put a hold at my local library for books on creating my own living will and revocable trust and I'm going to do that next. But, if you just start with the advance healthcare directive, you can actually put a lot of info in there as far as your wishes regarding what happens if you end up incapacitated, who makes decisions, what to do with your remains, etc. The CA form even says if the court says I need a conservator, that my two friends who have the POA are also chosen by me to be my conservator, unless they aren't available or decline.
Anyway, you might not need to spend money on an attorney just to accomplish what you mentioned, and a whole lot more with just the directive.
Thanks. I have a medical directive card with two contacts. But when I spoke to the pre-paid burial plan people they told me by law unless I have a notarized document, a relative must ID the body. My relative doesn't even know what my choice is for burial. (Cremation.) So I'll have to tell him, just in case. And I don't even have current pictures of myself and my husband yet to give to those I will designate. (Or my close relative.) So I'll have to go to work on that. (Thanks again.) I'll also be looking for the conservatorship information you are talking about. Preparing for death in advance can be complicated.
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